30 day meme
Dec. 13th, 2010 09:30 am![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
sprinkletheifDay 01 - Your current relationship
justin... where to begin? justin and i have known each other for the better part of almost 15 years. we lost touch briefly in our early 20's, but found each other during a really horrible time in my life. my relationship had just ended and i was abandoned in cleveland, i was recovering from a pretty bad snap of bipolar whirlwind suckfest, quitting real estate (just in time as it turned out) and getting ready to try to go back to school and finish my degree. on top of that my body was out of control with malfunctions, throwing up blood, random fainting and seizures, crippling back pain and all kinds of fun. i dropped 80 lbs in a matter of months, my hair was coming out by the handful and i went into hiding from almost everyone. there were very few people i kept in contact with, and justin was one of them. he talked me through everything, helping me decide to return to school, coming over and hanging out with me when i was adjusting to living alone for the first time in my life and being there for me in general. it was at this time when we half-jokingly made a pact - when we were finally done failing over and over again at relationships, we were going to get married since we already knew we loved each other.
we remained incredibly close through the years, often making whomever i was in a relationship with uncomfortable. i hadn't really thought about being together, he was just one of my best friends. i *did* admittedly find him incredibly hot (exibit a, exibit b) but i honestly never really thought to pursue him, i didn't think he thought i was attractive let alone relationship material... so one relationship crashed and burned, another was being kept alive on life support when he helped me through trying to end it with as little fallout as possible. he didn't go out without kicking and screaming, making it even more difficult, but justin was there for me through it. we eventually noticed that we were spending nearly every day together, so we decided to give it a go. a few months later, we were planning my annual halloween bash when he said "hey, aren't we supposed to get married now?!" remembering our pact. so we did. it was a surprise wedding, a mad tea party.
we've been married now for just over a year. we've hit some pretty shitty times, living in an apartment we were horribly mislead about in a neighborhood i couldn't safely walk to my own car by myself in. his grandmother who raised him dying was a horrible blow to him and he fell into a deep depression that almost killed us. shortly thereafter the grandfather who's home he had been living in when we met passed away. one of his "friends" caused some MAJOR problems as well, but we survived it, all the more strong, all the more in love with each other.
now? we're an unstoppable duo. we've regained our original balance after a year of unfortunate situation after unfortunate situation, and i feel like we've emerged even stronger. he's the mickey to my mallory, the sailor to my lula. he's sometimes my only driving force, and he's a total inspiration to me. he never finished high school, dropping out and getting his GED. he has very little formal training in his field, and yet he's an incredible success in it - enough of one that i am able to not work and focus only on schooling. to see what he came from, what he's overcome and what he's become - i can't help but be inspired to keep my head down and push forward, no matter which part of my spine fails, or which joint freezes. with his moral support i've got one semester of 4.0 under my belt, and this semester is looking as though it will be following suit. he loves my father, often helping him with projects and talking politics for hours on end with him. he knows how to handle my deviant criminal brother, and how to weather my insanity. i'm not saying we're perfect, but we are an incredible match, and i love him dearly.
justin... where to begin? justin and i have known each other for the better part of almost 15 years. we lost touch briefly in our early 20's, but found each other during a really horrible time in my life. my relationship had just ended and i was abandoned in cleveland, i was recovering from a pretty bad snap of bipolar whirlwind suckfest, quitting real estate (just in time as it turned out) and getting ready to try to go back to school and finish my degree. on top of that my body was out of control with malfunctions, throwing up blood, random fainting and seizures, crippling back pain and all kinds of fun. i dropped 80 lbs in a matter of months, my hair was coming out by the handful and i went into hiding from almost everyone. there were very few people i kept in contact with, and justin was one of them. he talked me through everything, helping me decide to return to school, coming over and hanging out with me when i was adjusting to living alone for the first time in my life and being there for me in general. it was at this time when we half-jokingly made a pact - when we were finally done failing over and over again at relationships, we were going to get married since we already knew we loved each other.
we remained incredibly close through the years, often making whomever i was in a relationship with uncomfortable. i hadn't really thought about being together, he was just one of my best friends. i *did* admittedly find him incredibly hot (exibit a, exibit b) but i honestly never really thought to pursue him, i didn't think he thought i was attractive let alone relationship material... so one relationship crashed and burned, another was being kept alive on life support when he helped me through trying to end it with as little fallout as possible. he didn't go out without kicking and screaming, making it even more difficult, but justin was there for me through it. we eventually noticed that we were spending nearly every day together, so we decided to give it a go. a few months later, we were planning my annual halloween bash when he said "hey, aren't we supposed to get married now?!" remembering our pact. so we did. it was a surprise wedding, a mad tea party.
we've been married now for just over a year. we've hit some pretty shitty times, living in an apartment we were horribly mislead about in a neighborhood i couldn't safely walk to my own car by myself in. his grandmother who raised him dying was a horrible blow to him and he fell into a deep depression that almost killed us. shortly thereafter the grandfather who's home he had been living in when we met passed away. one of his "friends" caused some MAJOR problems as well, but we survived it, all the more strong, all the more in love with each other.
now? we're an unstoppable duo. we've regained our original balance after a year of unfortunate situation after unfortunate situation, and i feel like we've emerged even stronger. he's the mickey to my mallory, the sailor to my lula. he's sometimes my only driving force, and he's a total inspiration to me. he never finished high school, dropping out and getting his GED. he has very little formal training in his field, and yet he's an incredible success in it - enough of one that i am able to not work and focus only on schooling. to see what he came from, what he's overcome and what he's become - i can't help but be inspired to keep my head down and push forward, no matter which part of my spine fails, or which joint freezes. with his moral support i've got one semester of 4.0 under my belt, and this semester is looking as though it will be following suit. he loves my father, often helping him with projects and talking politics for hours on end with him. he knows how to handle my deviant criminal brother, and how to weather my insanity. i'm not saying we're perfect, but we are an incredible match, and i love him dearly.